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Council of Feminist Thought: Male and Female Perspectives on Street Harassment

I was a guest on Vocalo’s The Morning AMp on Wednesday and we talked about street harassment in reflection of International Street Harassment Awareness Week. On the show, I shared two stories and we discussed the prevalence of street harassment toward young teens and women (most likely due to their vulnerability of age). Above is our long, but worthwhile segment. 

Here are a couple of things I’ve written about street harassment in the past:

nonchalantjon asked: Every time my brother comes home we have a "Show me what you been listening to" stand off and 90% of the songs he likes when it's my turn to play stuff are songs I discovered on your blog. Dance music is really the only thing we bond over and I guess this is a thank you cause if it weren't for those songs we'd just end up arguing more

Dance music is the great uniter! It brings souls together unlike any other. It is on the dance floor where we are free to let go of the pretenses of the outside world and bond with each other soul to soul. 

Anonymous asked: beautiful photos! visual snapshots into your life. very king b (as in beyoncé, but also as in brit). big hug !

I don’t know who this is, but I love you!

“I think dancing is one of the best things anyone can do for themselves. And it doesn’t cost anything.”

Frankie Knuckles’ remix of Michael Jackson’s “Rock With You”

RIP Frankie Knuckles

I can’t even articulate the ways in which Frankie Knuckles changed my life and the lives of so many millions of people across the world. He changed Chicago forever and for the better. He changed music forever and for the better. What has house music meant to me? Everything. It is my heart and soul and home. It is coming home. It is the truth and the gospel. It is the language I speak, the language millions of House Heads speak across the world. Thank you for the gifts and the light you gave us, Frankie. 

You should listen to this entire Tomas Barfod mix. A couple of reasons why:

  • It’s only 22 minutes. That’s like an episode of a boring sitcom. Dedicate your time to this. 
  • It features a number of new Barfod tunes from his upcoming LP, Love Me. If this mix is any indication, the new album will be sharp, full of longing, and the perfect accompaniment to late summer nights. 
  • You like good music and this is full of good music. 


Tomas Barfod feat Nina K - Aftermath

Dog Bite - Lady Queen (Botany remix)

Beverlay - Typically Her (Kaytranada remix, Tomas Barfod edit)

Tomas Barfod - Happy feat. Eddie Chacon (Acapella)

Solar Bears - Interzone 

The Do - Slippery Slope (Tomas Barfod edit)

Tomas Barfod - Chimera 

Tomas Barfod - Pulsing feat. Nina K

Tomas Barfod feat Night Beds - Wont Tell You

"The Malady of Death" by Marguerite Duras

PREVIOUSLY: Lost Mixicisms #1

(I am posting some of my “lost” mixicisms in anticipation of a new one that is all fancy and glossy.)

See, what had happened was: I ended a relationship. I was ready to create a playlist that was anti-love, anti-romance, but then I realized that was a worthless pursuit. Because that was never really a reflection of what happened or what went wrong. It was dishonest to myself and what we had. After crying, I soon got over myself. 

What it’s about: See the above. But also, mood, regret, depression, longing. 

Download MORE Valentine’s playlists: I Want You (a 2013 romance mix)

Tracklist and DOWNLOAD

"Are You Leaving Me (Demo)" by Aretha Franklin

"I Can’t Wait Until I See My Baby’s Face" by Baby Washington

"He Hit Me" by Anika (cover)

"Band Of Gold" by Freda Payne

"Thank You For Nothing" by Kleerup

"Faithful" by Jacques Greene

"Now U Know Tha Deal 4 Real" by Machinedrum

"All U Need" by Aashton

"All Good (Mj Cole Remix)" De la Soul

"Golden (Kaytranada’s Life Extended Living Edition)" by Jill Scott

"Black Water" by Tinashe

"Policy Of Truth" by Depeche Mode

"Happy Be Fine" by Poliça

"So This Is Goodbye" by Junior Boys

"Hunter" by Bjork

"Climax" by Usher and Diplo

"I Get Lonely Too" by Drake (cover)

"Into Dust" by Mazzy Star

I watched Black Girl in Paris, the short film based on Shay Youngblood’s novel late yesterday afternoon as the sun began to set. The light filtered through the curtains of my living room and I felt as present in the settings of the film as in my own home. 

It is a story about a young writer and the mysterious woman who lives in her hotel. Well, that was the basis of it. This story – about the transformative power of female relationships, the publicness of our longings, the discrepancy between what we want for ourselves and what the world instead gives us – was beautifully captured on the screen. Paris looked glorious – delicious really – and unmanageable, a point driven home by the plot of the film.

I loved Eden’s (Tracey Heggins) little fantasies dressed as Josephine Baker. She also mentions Baldwin’s views on Paris as inspiration for her life there away from the American South. Haven’t we all had something like that about the places and moments that are supposed to change our lives? In the midst of living, we ignore the fact that so many of our choices are performative, that we often struggle in the name of what we should be doing and who we should be. My life should look like this because I am here and that is the life that I was told and understood mattered.

I know that feeling so well, too well. I used to think your twenties were about making this mistake repeatedly, eventually learning from your mistakes. But I am observing the world around me and all I see are people playing parts, accepting certain roles, hoping that no one will notice their choices are not their own, but merely history playing out on the individual level. 

“Language is for me like the nectar of the living, I find it singing to me everywhere I go.”

(via tumblropenarts)

Artist Name: Kai Mallari


The colors here remind me of the work of Davis/Langlois. Truly stunning. 


"Honey Do" by Beverly

Memories of late college and close female friendships. This is the sound of that time, the soundtrack of what it was like to think that the world was well within grasp, regardless of whatever anyone else said. The fact that Beverly also includes the divine Frankie Rose is only the cherry on top of this ear worm of a summer song. 


"P.A.R.T.Y." by Seven Davis Jr. featuring Mezmawho

An easy entry for my list of Most Perfect Grooves. Stunning, catchy, energetic, simply perfect. 


Q: What is the very first house record that was made?